1. IDENTIFY THE QUALITIES YOU’RE LOOKING FOR.
Write down the things that are “needs” in the family you choose. These qualities are must-haves. They could include things like religion, location, and contact after placement. Then add “wants” to the list. These could be things like hobbies and interests. This list will help you verbalize what the family you want looks like.
2. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART.
After you’ve made your list and start looking at families, listen to your heart. There may be families that have all the qualities on your list but just don’t feel “right.” On the flip side, there may be families that don’t have all the items on your list but just feel like the perfect fit for your child. Follow your gut instincts.
3. REACH OUT AND MAKE A CONNECTION.
After you’ve listened to your heart and identified families that you think may be a the perfect family to raise your child, reach out and make that real-life connection. It’s okay to reach out to several families at the same time to compare and contrast how you feel with each one. The perfect fit it out there! You can (and should!) be picky! Make sure you talk about communication after placement and what you want that to look like. These conversations can be difficult. If you start to feel overwhelmed, be sure to lean on your adoption professional to help things go more smoothly.
4. TAKE YOUR TIME.
This is your story. You are the one who makes the decisions in your adoption story for you and your baby. You have the right to choose whatever family you desire to parent your child. This is a lifelong decision. Take your time.
5. Start connecting with families. We can help!